Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Rush to Judgment

When I was 25, I was diagnosed with Adenomyosis.  Never heard of it?  Neither had I.  All I did know was that when my period came every month, I was in extreme pain.  So extreme that I literally could not walk.  I could not move.  Breathing was even difficult.  Each month I took enough pain killers to tranquilize a horse - but to no avail.  I remember one particularly bad episode in which my work cube-mate told me I should go home because my breathing was so strained and I was in such obvious pain.  Unfortunately, the pain was so bad that I could not drive.  And let me just say -- I own an epilady.  I know pain.  I can handle pain -- even in the extreme.  But I could not handle this.  So I curled myself into a fetal position  until the end of the day when another co-worker was able to drive me home.

After a laparoscopy and a diagnosis, I thought I would be able to receive treatment, control the pain - end scene.  Do you know what my doctor told me was the "standard treatment" for alleviating pain associated with Adenomyosis?  A hysterectomy.  Really.  At 25.  (And you thought we invested too much in women's health...that's precious.)  Second choice?  To take monthly birth control pills.  Ah-ha! -- see why I took the time to share my most private health concerns that are actually none of your goddamn business?

To anyone ignorant enough to judge another and call her a slut or prostitute without walking a mile in her shoes, a couple of things: 1) when experts (and by "experts" I mean doctors, not politicians and their pundits) state that birth control is part of a comprehensive health care plan for women, this would be an example of what they mean.  As would ovarian cysts of which Sandra Fluke spoke; 2) rather than judge me, I would welcome you to experience the pain I endured prior to taking monthly birth control.  To do so, simply stab yourself in the lower abdominal region and then go about your daily life -- drive, work, breathe, go to lunch with your boss...and come back and call me a slut to my face.

I'll be happy to twist that knife for you.



1 comment:

  1. I love you. I suffer from fibroids and was told the same thing...have a hysterectomy and all will be well. (I was 31 at the time and still hopeful that I might procreate) I suffered massive pain and nearly 2-week long Aunt Flo visits. A shot of depo 4 times a year and all has been well. And I assure you the birth control was in no way related to actual sex since I have not really had sex since 2001.

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